Tuesday, May 13, 2014

Mother's Day for the Wanna-Be's

Mother's Day can be a tough one for childless people like me. Surprisingly, it didn't bother me this year. I have learned that emotions really cannot be predicted. Why would I burst into tears during a random church service, but not on Mother's Day? Maybe expecting strong emotion is enough to keep it away. Anyway, I am just one person dealing with infertility. There are many, many more. If you truly want to understand how the infertile people around you are feeling, try reading some of these posts:
I noticed several thoughtful posts circulating last week, specifically here, here, here, and here. They encouraged people to remember people who may struggle on Mother's Day. I think we should try to be mindful of those around us, but still fully embrace joy. A friend may be mourning the loss of her mother, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't celebrate your own mother. Similarly, my lack of children doesn't mean that you should avoid celebrating yours.

On Sunday, I received messages and hugs from several friends. They realized it could be a tough day, so wanted to let me know they were thinking of and praying for me. I felt very loved. Mothers are worth celebrating. As I have said before, I don't want my infertility to dampen anyone else's joy. Kind gestures are deeply appreciated, but I would not want to shift the focus of the day to myself. Someday, Mother's Day will apply to me, and I look forward to that day!


AmateurNester

8 comments:

  1. Thanks for linking up, Davy. And for sharing those posts. I especially loved the one from Jason Johnson. I'm so glad Mother's Day didn't really bother you this year! I think you're right that the expectation of strong emotion can sometimes ward it off.

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    1. I really liked Jason's post, too, Lisa. Thanks for hosting the link-up.

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  2. We are praying for you, Davy, and I was specifically praying for you on Mother's Day. I thought of you when we sang "God Moves In A Mysterious Way". The words to that hymn have offered me great comfort during trial, and I hope they comfort you as well. Sending a hug your way today! Meg T

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    1. Thanks, Meg. I think that song has sent me into tears on at least one occasion, but it's so good.

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  3. Thanks for sharing these links and resources!

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  4. Loved all the links and stories! Thank you for sharing ;)

    waitingforbabybird.com

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  5. So glad you felt some better this year, I felt some more peace than last at least. Thank you for this post!

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