Monday, June 9, 2014

Adoption Is Not The Easy Way Out

I recently encountered the concept of "resolving" infertility. In my understanding, this resolution can be through eventually bearing children, through adoption, or through deciding to live a childless life. Basically, resolving infertility is moving on.

To some people, adoption seems like the easy way out. Let me assure you: adoption is many things, but easy is not one of them. The costs seem insurmountable, the paperwork endless, and the emotional risks just scary. Adoption means putting your heart on the line.

As we prepare to begin the process, new fears are surfacing. This weekend, we learned that our friends are going through a failed adoption. Is that in our future? We know that adoption is complicated and risky, but seeing one fall through made the risk more real. We have said that we don't feel strong enough for foster care. After so many years of longing for a child, we cannot imagine having one only to have him or her returned to a bad situation. A failed adoption must feel the same way.

Life involves risk. Period. Infertility treatments have risks. Adoption has risks. So, we press on. After hearing the sad news this weekend, I was encouraged by Psalm 94:18-19.


Yes, adoption is risky; however, many adoptions are successful. When I see families like the one in this video, I get so excited to see what God has for us. Our family is a blank slate right now. We are confident that it will not stay that way, and we pray that God gives us strength and wisdom on the journey. 

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8 comments:

  1. I love how you're approaching this in such a balanced way. Really incredible video, too.

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  2. "Life involves risk. Period." You've got that right. No matter which way we turn, there are risks. Even doing nothing is a risk--sometimes it's the biggest risk of all. I pray your adoption story is a positive one! Blessings to you.

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    1. Good point, Lisa. Thanks for the encouragement.

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  3. Yes, adoption is NOT the easy way out. My family has 9 adopted kids (3 of whom have HUGE emotional issues that we were not prepared for), went through 2 failed adoptions, and lost an adoption due to death. Thankfully God is good and he knows what each person needs to draw them closer to himself. I pray that God opens the door for you to have children - whatever way He sees best! Thanks for linking up with the Faith and Fellowship Blog Hop!

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    1. Wow, Susannah! Nine is a lot. Thanks for sharing your experience. God does make us more like him through difficulty. We have no idea what the future holds, but we are confident that He is in control and His plan is perfect. Thanks for the prayers!

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  4. Love that video!! And can't wait to see where this journey takes you. It's kind of fun having a blank slate right now. Kinda. At the same time it's like, "can we get this show on the road?" :) Great post!

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    1. Yes, and yes. The future is exciting. What will our family look like? We are so excited to find out. On the other hand, let's hurry up and get there already. I know you can relate.

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